Thursday, February 17, 2011

Thursday, February 17, 2011
10
by Brittany Sloan
When we lose someone we love, people say that “it will get better,” but that’s a lie. It doesn’t get easier when a loved one is gone. I lost my great grandma in October. I held her as she passed away. I promised I wouldn’t leave her. Eventually the family had to leave so the doctors and whoever else can do what they needed to. I didn’t want to leave; I clung to my mom, crying that I promised my grandma.


Death is inevitable, but no matter if the person is 2 and hasn’t really even begun to live or 91 and has had a full life of memories, it still hurts.

In November I celebrated my birthday, and I received birthday cards from all the usual people: my aunt, grandma, sister, etc., but the one person I didn’t get one from was my great grandma. It felt like someone had punched me. All I could think about was not seeing her shaky script, which often said, “Brittany you are a beautiful, wonderful granddaughter that makes me so proud.”

I was devastated. I knew I had to figure out a way to vent. I don’t like having to depend on people, so talking was out of the question. I realized if she was the one person I could turn to so easily; why should I stop talking to her?

I know that sounds crazy, talking to a dead person, but instead of talking I decided to write notes, poems, and letters all to her. Just putting these feelings, news, thoughts down and just believing she knows that this is all to her helps.

If you lose someone and it’s hard to cope, try writing, talking, or even just thinking all the things you want to say to that person. It doesn’t get easier or better, but you learn that you’ll survive.

10 comments:

  1. Its absolutely not crazy to still talk to them. its a natural way of dealing with the death and to grieve effectually you should never feel as if the person has fully left you... because they haven't. I know many people have said this, but they are always in your heart. I still talk to my father, if not directly, through doing something he loved. So maybe you should try to pick up something she loved and try it.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I understand how you feel Brittany. I have lost someone special in my life too. Trust me it will get better over time. And if you think that that person is in a better place it makes life a little easier to cope with.

    ReplyDelete
  3. I'm so sorry for your loss Brittany. Writing is a good way to express your feelings, let me know if you need anything hun.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Brittany, this is a very heart felt article but sad. It was really touching so good job!!

    ReplyDelete
  5. I haven't lost that many people in my life, but it's still the worst thing I've went through :/

    ReplyDelete
  6. It's never fun losing people. I wish there was a way to make it easier.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Brinttany your not alone n this, ive lost a few loved ones in my life and i did something similar to the way you vented

    ReplyDelete
  8. This was so touching. It's always hard to lose someone.

    ReplyDelete
  9. This has to hit home for a lot of people out there. I think it is great that you can express yourself in writing and for our class to see. You deserve the support of people for maintaining your strength in your hard times. The way you presented everything was heart-felt. It is certainly easy to admit that the death of someone close is the hardest thing people go through. Going through the whole piece I admire its coming full circle and wrap-up. I'll never be the one to give advice on how to deal with losing people, but if I've ever seen one of my peers do that right it has been you. I hope you feel better and remember her life for the great things she did knowing everything happens for a reason.

    ReplyDelete
  10. I loved this article. It hit home. I recently lost my grandma in November, and we were so close. I still find myself crying in class or at home or even work at random times. I hear her speak to me when I'm about to do something that will mess up my life. You're not alone. I'm sorry for your loss. Thanks to this article, I've found more ways to communicate with my grandma without being laughed at. I have nobody to go to when I'm upset. Now, I can write letters to Heaven and hope grandma will get them.

    ReplyDelete